FAQ About Gay BDSM

Gay BDSM is just a variant of casual BDSM. Probably most of you know what lies behind this acronym – it includes four key concepts: bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism, as well as some variants of them, for example male dominance, male submission, female dominance, female submission and many more. It is important to know that, in addition to the totality of physical sensations, this is also a mental-level sensation, the master and the slave have an emotional connection, and the experience is largely spiritual.

Two main types of roles are known in this sexual game. Top, or just a sadist, is a man who likes to dominate. He must subdue his partner, penetrate his consciousness, and carry out complete control of the body and soul. On the opposite side is the bottom. It voluntarily gives his consent to be controlled, and the commands of his master are fulfilled, no matter what they are. It is important to specify that regardless of the rude character of that activity, the top and the bottom play in sync, they both want the game. Other concepts that you can see are a slave and a master. In fact, these are synonyms of a bottom and a top because the active partner has a leading role, while the passive is fully subordinated.

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The types are so many that it is practically impossible to describe them. However, we have attempted to give an appropriate definition to some of the most common forms of BDSM.

-Animal roleplay, also well known as puppy play in gay community. In the mass case, the passive partner recreates a pet, as the master treats him precisely as such one – he takes him for a walk, feeds him, trains him to execute commands.

-Nipple torture: This is a game with the partner’s breasts. For example, putting clamps on the nipples, beating on the chest and so on. There are also extreme forms. For example, in a medical fetish, partners could reach a level where the master pierces the nipples of a slave with a needle. You could see some examples in our Bound Gods category. There is a plenty of nipple play.

-Estim: Estim means erotic electrostimulation. There are devices developed specifically for this purpose. For example, electric dildos, sticks, batons and many others. The common among them is that they produce short electrical signals that pass through the body to the bottom. When such a device is inserted into the anus or put around the penis, it can cause a series of cramps that lead to the so-called hands free orgasm. Some examples are available in our Men On Edge category, where estim devices are widely used.

-Edging: The obedient partner is subjected to a series of bodily experiences that lead him to the edge of orgasm. The master, however, does not allow this to happen for a long period of time. In gay community cock edging is a very popular form of BDSM. You can find videos and examples in our Gay Edging Porn category.

-Flogging: Usually, the bottom is tied to the cross of St. Andrew, as the top flogs it with different whips. The game can be quite light, but also extremely heavy, depending on the preferences of the partners.

-Spanking: This is one of the most common Gay BDSM sexual fetishes. The active partner is spanking the butt of the passive’s one, while it has the characteristic red color. You can see more within our Spanking category.

–CBT (Cock and balls torture): This part of the sexual game is perfectly clear. It is about any form of manipulation of the penis and balls. From wrapping the penis with duct tape to attaching ball weights and pinching, gay sounding etc. From an innocent game to extreme brutality, the concept encompasses all of this. You can find more in our CBT and sounding category.

-Wax play: Another widely popular fetish. The master uses wax candles to cover the body of a slave with the molten wax. This game is also known as Waxtirment – a combination of wax and torment.

-Leather Fetish: Regardless that gay leather fetish is not necessarily related to this game, most people associate it with BDSM. Let’s be honest, if black leather is what makes you horny, the probability of not liking rough games is too small.

-Fisting: Many people think that Gay fisting is an integral part of the definition of Gay BDSM, but it is completely wrong. Although this is an very extreme form of sex, it is defined as a simple sexual fetish.

That’s a short story. We tried to give some reasonable explanation, but we probably missed a lot of aspects. However, we believe that our article provides basic guidelines and definitions for the main elements of gay BDSM.